Monday, June 10, 2013

Moving On

I've been distant from the blogosphere but it doesn't mean I'm not thinking about it. Not wondering how my peeps are doing and the wonderful things they're accomplishing. Some things just come in our lives that are bigger and need to be handled first. I hate when that happens.

This morning is one of those moments and I feel the best way to handle it is, well, to right about the situation.

Friends come and go. I've had several throughout my life and each one has blessed me in some unique way to where they're always memorable and have a place in my heart. I've always been a huge believer in that you have several friends that come and go and you have few who stay forever. This past week I lost what I thought to be a forever friend.

The argument, or lack of an argument has me dumbfounded when I was given the news by this person. I had apologized for the behavior, agreeing that I may have been slightly out of line but no more than usual. I took their feelings into account and they chose, in the end, to not accept my apology and decline being friends from that moment on.

We've never fought like this. What's sad, is I don't even think it's a fight. I don't understand what made this said person change their mind about me entirely. I've been the same way for five years. Why now would I be considered anything different? My personality was something they'd always love and in two seconds it worked against me.

I write this as just a way to let go of the emotions I'm harboring. I am saddened that they no longer want to continue what I thought would have been a blossoming friendship, but also know they need to decide what's best for them and at the moment I am not it.

Moving on is hard. Especially when the feelings sit so fresh in our hearts. This will be a person I hope can feel they are able to come back and be friends again.

9 comments:

Indigo said...

Sorry, sweet friend. I know the feeling. True friends (the staying kind) are able to agree to disagree on occasion. The world would be boring as all get out, if we all agreed all the time.

Here's to hoping your heart mends and you continue to shine in your own way. (Hugs)Indigo

SA Larsenッ said...

Gosh, sweetie. So sorry. It's hard sometimes, on both ends. And the real hard thing is that we might never know the true reason, what was lying beneath that they didn't want to divulge.

Thinking of you... Know you are not alone.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I'm sorry, Jen. That's not fair that she doesn't want to work things out though. You made the effort.

Natalie Aguirre said...

So sorry, Jen. That's hard when someone can't accept an apology and move on. You did what you could. Hang in there. We're all your friends. And we're not going anywhere.

Jemi Fraser said...

That's so hard! I hope you 2 can get together soon and talk things through *hugs*

Michael Di Gesu said...

Hi, Jen,

I saw this and had to visit... I know we don't chat as often as we used to, but I always think of you and wish you the best.

Perhaps IN TIME, this person will understand that you have grown and perhaps changed in ways that YOU may not know... but remember sweets, we all change. But our feelings for our friends may not... If this person realizes we all GROW as we age, then perhaps they will come back into your life.

Bish Denham said...

If a sincere apology from you was not enough, perhaps your friend was looking for a reason to move on... It's never easy. But no doubt, there is someone in the wings waiting to be your friend.

Laura Marcella said...

I'm so sorry, Jen :( I know how you feel. One of my best friends from high school, who was also my college roommate and a bridesmaid in my wedding, no longer is my friend. I don't even know how it happened. She just stopped making plans with me or returning my phone calls. She did that to two other of my friends, and we don't know what happened. She had new friends she liked more, I guess. People change and what they're looking for in their friendships change, too. But I cherish our past friendship and I'm glad she was in my life. I thought she'd be a forever friend, but I'm glad she was my friend for awhile, even if wasn't for forever.

I hope you and your friend do make up again. Maybe she just needs to cool off. But if not, know that she probably cherishes the memories of your friendship, too.

Happy reading and writing! from Laura Marcella @ Wavy Lines

Beth said...

This happened to me recently too. My best friend of ten years and I are no longer friends. There wasn't a real argument, but when she decided she was getting married she never asked me to be in the wedding. Then she planned her wedding on a day she knew would be impossible for me to get there. The saddest part of it was she was supposed my daughter's godmother.