Friday, January 21, 2011

The Significant Other Blogfest!!!


Talli Roland and DL Hammons have really out done themselves this round with The significant other blog fest (make sure to check out the other entrants!). They were smart to ask us to ask someone special in our live's to share the light on what it's like to be married/related to a writer.


I'm so glad that my husband said yes. He's amazing, and this is why I love him.

The @$#% My Wife Says…

“You know how I told you…” This is the opening to a conversation that my wife is going to have with herself, that I am going to be privileged to listen to for the next 20 minutes. It doesn’t matter if I was present for the last idea she had, all that matters is we are deviating or building from the last conversation she had with a character in her head. These 20 minutes are a glimpse into her mind. This is when I am glad that I speak her language, “Jen”.

“Oh, nothing, I just had an idea…” Jen’s response to me when I ask what she is thinking when she looks like she is a thousand miles away. The next 15 minutes are spent in a monologue (occasional pauses for my “uh-huh” or “yeah” while she catches her breath) telling me about an idea as it is still growing. It’s a little (not a little, it is) all over the place. I usually get lost in the middle but she’ll get me caught up by the end. She goes from deep in thought to overly excited in matter of minutes.

“Sorry, I talked so much…” she ends nearly every conversation over 15 minutes this way. What she doesn’t know, even when I tell her, is I really enjoyed hearing what is going on in her mind. The conversations, and thoughts she has in her head aren’t a part of my life until she lets me in. The crazy dreams, the constant writing down of ideas, the emotional roller coaster I get all that, so I’m glad to be a part of the inner workings as well.

68 comments:

Laura Pauling said...

Sounds very familiar. Spouses married to writers are all nodding their head! :)

Shannon said...

Aww...this is a wonderful post. So great to see Jen through the hubby's eyes. =)

I'm digging this blogfest so far - so glad I'm able to participate. Talli and DL came up with an excellent idea.

Christina Lee said...

This was the sweetest *sniff* Now I love Mr. D too!

salarsenッ said...

I love his voice!! He did this perfectly. So happy he did this for you, Jen. You're awesome.

Theresa @ Fade Into Fantasy said...

Awww... what a great guy! Great post :)

Lisa of In Pencil said...

How cute that your husband took the time to write this

DL Hammons said...

How could you not succeed with a guy like that in your corner??? Awesome post! Thank you so much to both of you. You made today very special! :)

Katie Mills said...

awe, what a supportive guy! Lucky duck Jen!

Matthew Rush said...

Ah ... very insightful. Nice to meet you Mr. D!

Stina Lindenblatt said...

What a great guy! Tons of supportive significant others on the blogs today. I'm ALMOST sorry I didn't ask mine to participate.

Jessica Bell said...

hahaha! This is great! I can so imagine you just babbling away there, Jen. hehe. Cute.

Talli Roland said...

I love that your husband is really happy to speak 'Jen' and that he enjoys the glimpses into your mind. He's a keeper! :)

Thanks for taking part, Jen!

Stephanie M. Lorée said...

Awwww, sounds like a great guy. It's so much fun getting an insight into my fellow blogger-writers that I've been following forever! I think, officially, this is the best blogfest of all tiem.

jeanette from everton terrace said...

That was cute and very sweet.

Meredith said...

That is just the cutest thing! So adorable that he loves to hear your monologues--what a happy couple!

Candyland said...

So cute! He put more thought into than mine.

Shannon O'Donnell said...

Awww, what a sweet man! This post is the best yet! :-)

Elle Strauss said...

Ahh, he sounds like a great guy and a great listener! Just what all writers need!

Julie said...

This made me cry. Love it!

~Nicole Ducleroir~ said...

Oh my gosh! He's a gem. You, Jen, are a very lucky woman!!

Have a great weekend, both of you :))

Sara B. Larson said...

This is such a fun blogfest, and so interesting to see how each different spouse responded to it. I loved this one!

Janet Johnson said...

What a sweet husband! And I'm so glad I'm not the only one who blabs on in monologues while my husband wears that amused expression. :)

Kristin Rae said...

That's sweet. I really don't even bother telling my hubs my ideas anymore. hahaha. He doesn't get it. :)

K.M. Weiland said...

Lucky gal to have a man who not only puts up with your writerliness, but even enjoys it! It's such a great boon to any writer when family is not only tolerate, but, even more important, supportive and encouraging.

Diana Mieczan said...

Awww that is sooooo sweet! You have such a great hubby, darling
Happy Friday
Kisses

Donea Lee said...

So awesome that he "gets" you! :)

Abby Minard said...

AWWWW So sweet!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Now that is a patient and loving man!

Kass said...

This is true love. I used to leave my diary around, hoping my (ex)husband would be interested enough to want to know my thoughts. He certainly didn't want any part of them in real life, perhaps in print he would take a glance. No such luck. Thus, the 'ex.'

Someone who has a clue and gives a damn is hard to find.

Angela Felsted said...

This is great! That you enjoy hearing what's on your wife's mind.

Stephanie said...

Aww! So great to meet the other half of Jen!!

Jodi Henry said...

My husband thinks he's the only one privilaged enough to experiance these kind of conversations on a daily basis.

He is so coming to read this!

J

Talei said...

Oh, your hubby sounds really lovely! He speaks 'Jen' and thats all that matters! ;)

And on another note, congrats on your 1000 plus followers my dear!

Len said...

Haha! This is awesome! I love the 'Jen' language :) Thanks for sharing this, Jen! :)

roxy said...

What a great guy! This blogfest is awesome.

Melissa said...

It's nice to get to see (from your own words) how awesome you are even though I knew that already from the way Jen talks about you.

Wendy Tyler Ryan said...

This was a wonderful idea that DL had and I really enjoyed your post. I never dreamt us writers would get so many of our SOs to come out.

Arlee Bird said...

Sounds like there might be some interesting conversations going on between the two of you-- or are we talking monologues. Fascinating presentation Mr. Daiker.

Lee
Tossing It Out

Summer Ross said...

He is so sweet to want to be inside with you- how wonderful that you have someone to love you that much! great post!

LTM said...

oh! Love him!!! And I can totally see these conversations going on and then you saying, "sorry I talked so much." And him giving you an affectionate smile... LOL! :D xoxo <3

Clarissa Draper said...

I just had an idea... you should start your own tv show you could call it "S#!T my wife says..." I don't think it's been done. ') Loved the interview.

Elena Solodow said...

I love the way he approached this. Excellent.

Lindsay (a.k.a Isabella) said...

Aww. Loved the post. It's awesome you have such a supportive hubby. :)

How about making s**@% my wife says a regular feature. lol.

Ellie said...

Hi Mr. D! I loved your post. You are fab.

My significant other

Theresa Milstein said...

Jen, nice to hear from your guy. And how great he's so supportive. I wonder what my husband would do if I talked about my book thoughts that long. Though maybe I have, but I'm clueless about it. I know I've done it about school stuff.

Hope to hear from your guy again.

Colene Murphy said...

Awe he's so cute!

Jennifer Hillier said...

He's the exact right guy to be married to a writer! Lucky you! (And definitely lucky him!)

Jemi Fraser said...

Love it! You're very lucky to have someone who not only gets it, but wants to hear it :)

Jolene Perry said...

That is SO me! My poor husband asks me all the time what I'm thinking and I"m always like, "about a book." He now knows that it's one of MINE, not someone else's and it's my favorite thing in the world when he lets me talk it all out.

Lydia K said...

That was too good!

alexia said...

What a fun post - that's great that you guys talk about all that. He sounds like a sweetie!

Amy Holder said...

Awww - this is so sweet & funny! Jen is natural writer...and I'm so glad she has such a sweet & supportive husband!

Su said...

Hee hee... my husband & I both start conversations with ourselves that way.

G.~ said...

Any man that enjoys glimpses into your mind is the keepingest of keepers. ;)

I've really enjoyed this blogfest. I have come across so many great blogs as a result, and most importantly, I am now a follower.

Nice to *meet* you both.

Amie Kaufman said...

He's a keeper, that one. I do love them when they listen and listen, and doubly so when we're sounding just a wee bit crazy with our half-thoughts!

Brigitte said...

you guys are adorable.
can you adopt me? :)

Kimberly Franklin said...

LOL. Our poor hubby's. He did a great job!

Guinevere said...

This was funny AND sweet. Just like your husband, it sounds like. Thanks for giving us this chance to get to know both of you better!

Sangu said...

Great post - writer-supporters everywhere are nodding along in perfect understanding! Ah, we are a handful, aren't we? :-)

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Mr Jen - sounds like you have your wife taped .. and isn't it great that you actually love listening to those scatty conversations she has .. and that you want to be in her mind.

Great - love the sentiment - thanks for letting us know .. Hilary

Jai Joshi said...

So sweet, Jen! I'm glad he listens to you. It's not easy to find a man who listens.

Jai

Vicki Rocho said...

Taking me 3 days but I WILL make it through this blogfest!

Tell me, if there's a football game on (or any other sporting event for that matter) is he still so attentive?

Kari Marie said...

This is really sweet. I love that your SO recognizes your language!

Donna Hole said...

What a sweet sounding board. We should all be so lucky :)

.......dhole

The Lovely Getaway said...

awwww :) Your husband is AWESOME! You can tell he loves you very much! Posts like this make me wish I would be marry.... just so I could participate :)haha! Keep up the good work you two.

Diana

koralee said...

Thank you so much for your sweet comments you left on my blog the other day...sounds like your husband is a really sweetheart!.xo

Kelly Dexter said...

Aw, that was really sweet!

Nicole Zoltack said...

So sweet! He's definitely a keeper!